How do you know a man is turned on? It would seem that the answer is obvious! His pulse quickens and his pants bulge sneakily. After all, he is a man, and they are always in a state of excitement, right? No it's not true.
Men may be thinking about sex 24/7 (studies show men have sexual thoughts every ten seconds), but that doesn't mean he's ready to rip your clothes off right now.
Stages of male arousal
There are four stages of sexual desire. Each of which causes many physical changes in the male body, including the brain, penis, and testicles.
Excitement.
During the first stage of the sexual response cycle, the brain initiates a chemical process that causes the penis to become erect or hard. This is because blood flows into the penis, causing the tissues to expand.
The scrotum also becomes denser and the heart rate and breathing process increase. Nipples may harden and muscles throughout the body begin to tighten.
Plateau.
In the second stage, the changes mentioned above become more pronounced. The testicles begin to move towards the body and increase in size. Blood pressure also increases.
Orgasm.
The third stage is the climax stage, when a man experiences an orgasm and ejaculation. This is the shortest phase and usually lasts only a few seconds. When he ejaculates, the muscles at the base of the penis tighten and contract, in addition to expelling the semen from the penis. There is a rapid relaxation of muscular tension that has arisen in the early stages of the sexual response cycle.
Resolution phase.
Fourth and last stage. The penis becomes smaller, returning to its normal size. Breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure also return to normal. The man may feel tired.
To experience an orgasm again immediately after ejaculation will not work, you will have to wait a bit to recover. Unfortunately, men, unlike women, this option is not available.
Signs by which you can understand that he is excited
To the question: "How to understand that a man is aroused? "- all the girls will confidently answer that he always has an erection. In fact, not everything is as primitive as it seems.
nonverbal cues
There are some nonverbal body cues that speak better than any spoken word about a man's sexual state:
- during a conversation, he involuntarily approaches the object of his attention. Gradually, the distance between the bodies inevitably decreases. This is followed by a light touch of the hands and feet. This gesture will not require an active action, it will be almost invisible. But this is how passion can start;
- if there is a woman nearby that a man wants, he will try to touch her, hug her. But what if circumstances do not allow it? Then he begins to unbutton his collar, straighten his tie, touch his buttons, ruffle his hair.
When sexual arousal occurs, the guy automatically begins to caress and turn in his hand the object that fell into his hand, in the form of a cylinder. Be it a pen, a glass, etc. This is no longer a signal, but a call to action.
civics phase
If a man expresses sexual sympathy for a woman, he will definitely attribute it to her behavior. If the meeting takes place in a restaurant, he will pour a glass of wine and offer refreshments, while he helps you get in and out of a chair.
He will do all this not only thanks to a good education. With his actions, the knight masks the instincts of the masculine principle: to have more opportunities to touch the object of his desire. His worried expression shows that the young man clearly plans not only to have dinner, but also to have breakfast together.
posture of a man
Realizing that the girl is sexually interesting, the inner switch of the conqueror of women's hearts switches to "alpha male" mode.
And here the movements begin to speak of the man's preferences: tense abdominal muscles, straight back (suggests good physical shape), roll of the shoulders, in a sitting position, legs wide apart. Such a gesture clearly shows that he has something to offer a woman.
physical reactions
- Fast breathing, dilated pupils, a slightly ajar mouth, a slightly hoarse voice are the very conditional signs that the man's brain is now working in a certain direction.
- Slightly flared nostrils, this seems to be how the animals pick up the scent of the female.
- Thirst appears, which is associated with an increase in body temperature at the time of arousal.
- The tone of his voice changes. Oooh, how exciting his voice sounds when he's nervous. Men have been known to lower their voices (subconsciously, of course) to attract the person they dream of being in the same bed with.
- A slight blush appears on his face. Yes, at the time of sexual arousal, rushes of blood are observed not only in the groin area.
- He smiles widely. An excited man is always in a good mood next to the woman he likes. Take a closer look, is that an annoying smile? Fake smile? Or a smirk: "I just-want-to-take-off-all-your-clothes-right-now"? We hope this is the last option.
- He often touches the chin, touches the nose, ears. According to psychologists, by stimulating these zones, a man is trying to mask reflex nervousness. When he gets excited, the skin on his face becomes very sensitive to touch.
- There is pressure in his touch. Have you noticed that his arms hug you a little tighter than usual? When a guy is turned on, he tries to get as close to you as possible. And it also means that he really loves you. But social norms prevent him from lashing out at you right now.
- When a man takes hold of passion, he loses control of his gestures and words. With a cloudy and wandering look, even the most sane guy begins to say so many nonsense that the girl may doubt the suitability of him. It's simple: at the moment of arousal, the processed information does not enter the male brain at all.
- He licks his lips. This gesture is actually an automatic reaction, something he can't control. When he is really excited, he licks or bites his lips.
- A sign of an aroused state is also a diversion from the topic of conversation towards intimacy. An erotic association can arise in him even when talking about everyday things.
- He has an erection. Well, that's the obvious and most direct sign that you're turning him on. What happens next is up to you.
The main sign of male arousal is an erection. Seriously, no matter how obvious it may seem, the "button" on the head works very quickly for guys, starting the necessary processes below the belt. And it's great! In addition to an erection, a man's heart rate increases, his pupils dilate, and breathing becomes much more frequent. The look changes: it becomes as lustful and excited as possible. Believe me, it's almost impossible not to notice male arousal. The guy will definitely make you understand this with all the looks of him. Male arousal is obvious!